Her Doctor suggested putting my 16-year-old on it to combat her heavy cramping and monster periods that sometimes cause her to miss school. I refused because that would be telling my daughter she’s allowed to have sex. Am I right?
Her Doctor suggested putting my 16-year-old on it to combat her heavy cramping and monster periods that sometimes cause her to miss school. I refused because that would be telling my daughter she’s allowed to have sex. Am I right?
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I hope your daughter finds out that sex is great for treating cramps. One of the best methods to get rid of them.
Use your brain! Your daughter is missing school and in severe pain. If I was your kid, I would emancipate myself from your cruel fundie religion.
Careful – you could open a floodgate or permissiveness.
Seek other remedies and make your decision easier
birth control is a treatment for that. Would you not give your daughter antibiotics she needed to improve how she is feeling
your daughter is who she is, she either believes she should wait for sex or she sees sex as naturel and perfectly fine, both are right and neither are wrong but nothing you do will change her views.
OMG. Have some mercy for the poor girl.
You are not telling her that at all. Have a talk, and explain that this does NOT give her permission to engage in sexual encounters. Give the poor child some relief!!!
No you are wrong. If you know your daughter isn’t having sex then what is the point of not giving her this medicine that is needed for her health? Is missing school more important than your paranoia? Is her being in pain more important than what others think?
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It would be telling your daughter that you care about her health and well being. You could then use words and actual parenting to tell her your views on sex.
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Simply giving your daughter a pill, especially if it’s specifically to reduce her cramping, is not telling her she’s allowed to have sex. I think it was rather cruel that you wouldn’t allow her to take the pill to ease her cramping.
I don’t see it as saying go have sex. To me you are just trying to help her from physical pain. Besides if she wants to have sex pill or not she is going to have it.
yes, you should actively participate in crippling another generation of americans with this ignorant invasive delusion.
We had to face that issue with our teenager as well. I would not oppose havint her take birth control but I think she had a cyst. It wasn”t the bad kind.
The phrase "monster periods" made me throw up in my mouth a bit.
Let’s just say I have a vivid imagination.
*shudder*
that’s just cruel
if your really that worried about her having sex at 16 then just talk to her and give her the meds dont let her suffer
I think if your daughter is in pain then this is an acceptable thing to do. Your daughter’s upbringing and morals should prompt her to know that pre-marital sex is wrong and sinful. If she seems like she might be interested in doing these things then I would suggest asking for a different medication or perhaps having a discussion with her about how you don’t want her to be in pain, but you also don’t want her to have one more reason to feel good about having sex before marriage.
Your God would want your daughter to suffer pain and miss her education since he didn’t provide doctors with solutions … give your head a shake.
My good friends mother is a holistic MD, she recommends natural progesterone cream for regulating hormones, reducing cramping and heavy bleeding. I have used it for 7 years and it works wonderful. It takes 2-3 months to balance out the system.
I don’t believe you are telling your daughter to have sex because that is not the purpose of the birth control in this particular situation. I would not recommend the birth control for such a young girl as it can have other side effects, elevated estrogen and fibroids. It would be dangerous in the long run.
Google natural progesterone cream and learn something! I wish someone would have given me this advise years ago, I know what your daughter is going through and I guarantee this will help.
Well that depends. What’s the legal age in your country to have sex? You can’t rigidly plan who and when she’s going to have sex /with.
No, you are not correct. Telling your daughter she’s allowed to have sex, is telling your daughter she’s allowed to have sex.
If your daughter has been taught real sex education as opposed to just being taught abstinence, and has her priorities straight as far as how she wants to live her life then giving her birth control isn’t going to be some sort of green light to go screw around. Your daughter will have sex whether she’s on birth control or not.
For some reason i think your lying about everything.
Tell her to go to planned parenthood so she doesn’t need your permission. You are wrong for denying her medications that can help prevent excruciating pain.
My cramps were bad. There are no alternatives…..been dealing with it for 25years.
You can compare her cramps to labor contractions every month for a few days at a time.
I think along with everything else it’s about how you look at things. If you’re looking at the situation as a way to save your daughter pain and discomfort then it’s a good thing. If you’re looking at it as a way to say go ahead have sex it’s a bad thing. In reality giving your daughter birth control to control a medical problem is not telling her that it’s appropriate for her to have sex. You have to communicate with her on the why’s of your actions and make a decision that’s best for your family. I will say if it truly hampers her life, however, you should put her on birth control and trust that you’ve done the best job you can.
Not necessarily…Sometimes those hormone pills can alleviate a lot of pain and I cannot say whether you did a dis-service to your daughter….Unless, you just cannot TRUST her enough to put her on the pill…….HMMM…..You should have talked to her and explained that if you decide to put her on the pill so that she can have some relief from heavy periods, cramps, etc, that would not give her freedom to have sex and that the pills are only for medical reasons…..I just hate to hear that the child is suffering unnecessarily because of TRUST ISSUES that you might have with her…..RETHINK IT A LITTLE PLEASE…….
don’t be surprised if she ends up like bristol palin. i feel sorry for her. her ‘mother’ put religious dogma before her best interests
I dont think using birth control for that sole reason is sinful. Obviously, do not encourage her to have sex or be sexually stupid. But you are the parent, and that decision is yours. You know your daughter, but you also know her pain. If you can trust her, I do not see how it would be sinful to give her birth control for that purpose.
Don’t make s*** up to troll.
this is not a religious issue it’s a medical issue that you don’t know anything about. if you care about your daughter you should listen to her doctor.
That is a decision that you have to make but being a mother of two girls and a Christian I can’t say that I would make the same one. Most medications have multiple uses. In this case so does birth control. If you have raised her to know right from wrong at some point you have to trust her with the information you have given her. I am not saying this to be rude but if you has a head ache would you give her Tylenol? People use that after a hang over but your not telling her its OK to go get drunk. You telling her if she has a headache and she can’t go to school to take a Tylenol. I think it would be the same here. Your not telling her it is OK to go out and have sex. Your telling her she has a medical condition and this medication will help that. That doesn’t mean she will turn her back on God or her beliefs. Sometimes as parents decisions are hard. Good luck and God bless.
Perhaps you should look at this from the viewpoint of our Lord. Didn’t Jesus heal the woman with the issue of blood? Ask yourself, did Jesus ever refuse to heal anyone because it might cause them to be able to sin later?
I was like your daughter and it is hell on earth. Next to childbirth it was the worst pain I have ever endured if that tells you anything.
Do you want her going through that every month? Ask yourself if God would be pleased with you denying your daughter pain relief. She has probably prayed for relief, and this is the answer.
You should let her take the pill. Heavy periods such as hers can lead to endometriosis, if she does not have it already. Endometriosis can lead to sterility.. I had such periods as a child and cramps, stayed home 3 days a month every month,until I got on the pill. Giving her the pill will not mean she is going to become sexual active. Talk to her about it
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No, you are not right. Medication is for the people who need it and the fact that it may prevent pregnancy is only a side effect of the medication she needs at the time. You should love her enough to get her what she needs that the medical doctors advise. Would you refuse her any other medication they recommended for a malady?
Teach her right and wrong and allow her to live with the help she needs from this medication. Have you ever had the cramping and pains she is having and did someone refuse the medication needed to control it? Why are you caring so little about her now.
—- I am a Christian that believes in accepting the things like the medical profession God has allowed man to generate.
Giving it to her won’t make her rush into sexual activity, and I think if she is having such a difficult time with her periods you would be wrong to keep her miserable. Even if she has been or is planning to be sexually active won’t you be more content knowing, on the birth control, she will be pretty solidly protected from the risk of pregnancy?
I agree with not wanting to do something that you feel would enable her, but see if there are other healthy effective remedies that can be used instead to still help ease her and the situation.
I suggest you give her the treatment. But also make it clear to her that it does not mean she can indulge in wrong activities like pre-marital sex.
If you don’t want to give her the pills at all, I suggest you pray for healing. Ask the Lord to heal her, and believe when you ask. Simple
No- it’s not right to make her suffer because of her periods when the problems can be prevented. She can still get STDs with the pill, so it’s not making her "allowed" to have sex.